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New URL

I decided to simplify my URL by buying the domain andysfo.com. Not that it really matters much; maybe it’s just a vanity thing. I had a webpage for a couple years at andysfo.net, but that was hosted through GoDaddy. I found GoDaddy’s website to be awkward, and I came to loathe all their advertising, so I decided to drop them. Even though my .net domain had expired, it seems GoDaddy was hanging onto it so they could get me to renew. Dot-net, dot-com: who really cares?

End of January

This week was exam week–midyears and semester finals. The tests are done, the grading is under way, and somewhere over the next two days I get to put together my two second-semester classes. It’s almost as if someone sat down and asked, “how can we come up with a way to stress both students and teachers as much as possible?”

On the other hand, the school year is half-over.

The crazy winter weather continues, as in no winter weather. It’s been raining for nearly twenty hours; as a colleague pointed out today, if it were ten degrees colder we’d be buried. Mild temperatures continue for the next week, which puts us into February. Chances are it’s going to be a mostly snowless winter. Makes one very suspicious about climate change.

Anne & I are going to talk with a writer tomorrow; she’s been working on a book about returning veterans and their families. She interviewed us a few years ago, but has decided to include the issue of PTSD and its long-term effects. Neither Anne nor I have spoken about this with anyone bur ourselves for going on three years, so it’ll be an interesting exercise. Since then, I know Anne’s thought a lot about the secondary effects that my PTSD has had on her and the family. For that matter, I have, too. Recently, I’ve been trying harder to communicate to those around me where I’m at. I feel like I plateaued a little over a year ago; its not getting any worse, though not really any better. I’ve learned to manage the worst effects, so don’t have to struggle to keep the anger, anxiety, hyper-vigilance, etc. under control; however, that’s not the same as being free of it all. The self-care I’ve learned requires that I do certain things, and not do others. Those people who have to live & work around me, have to put up with me, need to have at least some idea of what’s going on so they don’t mistake my behaviors for anything other than what they are. For example, several times a day I really need to be in a quiet place by myself. Keeping all the effects managed takes a lot of energy, physical and emotional; if I don’t have time to relax a little, I become over-tired, more stressed, and less able to manage it all. It’s easy to assume that I’m alienating myself, upset with others, avoiding people, and so on, when in fact I simply need some space.

It’s not easy to talk about these things, of course. Not only is my inner life private, like everyone’s; it also leads to feeling vulnerable, which is a trigger for all sorts of reactions. I really dislike opening up like this. But, it helps others, especially those close to me, understand what’s up. So, I’m chalking it up to just one more of the unpleasant elements of living with PTSD.

Calm Before The Storm

Hurricane Irene is passing over North Caroline & takingwpid-thestorm-2011-08-27-16-10.jpg aim at New England. We’ve begun to get the leading edge rain, but the Saturday still remains fairly quiet. We’ve laid in several day’s worth of supplies, so there’s little to do but wait out the storm.

Weather has served metaphor duties as long, no doubt, as there have been humans. The violence of storms, the frozen depths of winter, the oppressive heat of summer–these and similar natural forces are frequently drawn upon to illuminate the drama of our individual and collective lives. We don’t often avail ourselves of nature’s calm and gentle side, however. Or, if we do, it’s as a contrast, as in (one of my favorite poems) Matthew Arnold’s Dover Beach:

The sea is calm to-night.
The tide is full, the moon lies fair
Upon the straits; on the French coast the light
Gleams and is gone; the cliffs of England stand;
Glimmering and vast, out in the tranquil bay.
Come to the window, sweet is the night-air!
Only, from the long line of spray
Where the sea meets the moon-blanched land,
Listen! you hear the grating roar
Of pebbles which the waves draw back, and fling,
At their return, up the high strand,
Begin, and cease, and then again begin,
With tremulous cadence slow, and bring
The eternal note of sadness in.

I know there are poems and stories that use tranquil, serene weather to describe the better side of the better aspects of humanity. Still, we seem pulled more towards the opposite.

One can’t help but wonder if our penchant for using harsh imagery such as doesn’t reflect the unsettled nature that seems part and parcel of modern life. If we cannot find, or if we choose not to look for, peace within our hearts, it’s not surprising that we have a hard time seeing it in the world around us.
By this time tomorrow we will have been in the middle of Irene for several hours. At the moment, though, I don’t feel concerned beyond being simply prudent. There’s nothing we can do to change Irene’s course or intensity, and short of driving to Ohio there’s little else we can do to mitigate whatever effects she might bring. What will come will come. Acceptance is not synonymous with complacency nor denial.

In this we can draw understanding from our place in the world. One can exercise good judgement and reasonably prepare for the future, but ultimately we’re pretty much along for the ride. It’s best to enjoy the calm, even in the knowledge that a storm is coming.

The leeward side of summer

Summer seems to be passing. I’ll spend most of next week at school on a video project for the district, and the following week brings the before-Labor-Day meetings and workshops. Two weeks from Tuesday a new school year begins. As is true of most years, I’m more-or-less ready for the change. While I enjoy summer’s down-time, I’m restless by the second week of August. Today it feels as if the year ahead is poised like a race-horse in the starting gate, barely contained energy awaiting the bell so it can leap into activity. It doesn’t really care what the jockey feels; he’s only (the horse thinks) along for the ride.

This will be a transition year in several ways. The most obvious will be Mary starting her freshman year at CCHS. Four years from now she will (most likely) be out of the house, off to college, and beginning her life independent from Mom & Dad. It’s exciting to watch her, but also a little bittersweet, Mary being our youngest. The nest isn’t empty yet, but I can feel it coming.

Mary’s graduation from high school will more than likely mark the end or near-end of my teaching career, at least public-high-school part. From the time I started teaching until a couple of years ago, I had always thought of myself as being in the classroom well into my mid-60s or beyond. I love being a class with a couple dozen teenagers, and I know I’ll miss it very much when I do leave. However, the combination of a problematic school environment with ongoing health issues (thank you, again, President Bush) make an earlier transition more likely. Of course, one can’t tell what lies ahead: things can change in ways that would keep me in the classroom, or push me out even earlier. Insofar as anyone can make plans, though (“life happens while we make plans”), the end appears in sight.

Anne will be starting back to school sometime this year, too. The circumstances that brought this about have been unpleasant, but I’m excited in anticipating the new directions that will open up to her over the next year. She’s always deserved better, and I see those days coming.

On a more mundane level, I should be able to realize some changes in at least two project I’ve been nurturing for a couple of years. The school yearbook program will, I hope, take on a completely different look, drawing more participation and enthusiasm from the students. Also, despite some unfortunate setbacks over the past six months, I think our TV production project will finally get off the ground (although it may be more like the Wright Brother’s first flight that a launch of the space mission).

Financially, the past two months have not gone well; but that, too, should eventually yield some benefits. I’m optimistic that the next six months will make the last three, if not worthwhile, at least acceptable. Assuming, of course, that our political & economic leaders don’t bring about a complete economic & social meltdown over the next year.

So, I think I’m ready for summer to pass. In more ways than I care to write about, what is in the past should remain just that: in the past. It is by looking forward that we progress, and it is by progressing that we grow. And that, I think, is what life is ultimately all about.

More weather cont’d

ANOTHER storm has popped up, this time headed down Route 2 towards us. What a weird day!

The news just reported that the storm will hit us around 8:45-50. 

 

 

 

Weather, cont’d

Looks like the storm that was headed our way has dissipated. The more serious storm that passed through Springfield is still creating problems to our south, but it looks like we dodged it. It’s still windy with a few sprinkles, but the sky has brightened. Hopefully this will be the most dramatic weather of the summer–but I’m not holding my breath.

Tornados in Massachusetts

The weird weather continues, this time with tornado watches & warning for central Massachusetts. One or two funnel clouds were spotted in Springfield & there are reports of some damage. While tornados aren’t unknown here, they’re not usual. I’m watching the news channels, which are tracking the storms as they move through the area. It’s taking me back to when I was growing up in Kansas & Missouri when these events were normal from spring through fall. I spent more than a few hours in basements back then, but it’s been nearly 40 years since I left the midwest. I can’t say that I’m anxious to head to the basement, but the excitement I felt as a boy is still there. The storm is still about 25 miles west of us, but the worst seems to be headed just south of us.

Thursday in Seattle

I made it back to SeaTac around 7:30 last night after spending Mon-Wed in Poulsbo with Eric, Stacy, & the family. I’ve got a long day before the flight leaves, but think I’ll drive around a bit & visit some of our old haunts. A little nostalgia doesn’t hurt.

Monday in Seattle

I flew to Seattle last night to spend a few days with my son, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren. It feels a little odd being back in the area where I spent nearly half my life. Odd insofar as how disconnected I feel. Although many of the best things in my life happened here–meeting & marrying Anne, Tristan’s & Mary’s births, watching all three children grow & experience the world, beginning my education & teaching career–there was also much difficulty & heartache. Perhaps if I’d grown up here a deeper connection would remain; as is, my good memories exist in a place removed from the physical “place.”

Of course, it’s overcast & threatening rain, and that could have something to do with it.